In the picture above you can see me sitting in the front wearing a plaid shirt and Patty sitting right behind me with a big smile. We were first loves in 4th Grade. As you can see, I had hair back then and Patty is just as pretty as ever. I am not sure what was on my mind then, other than I wanted to sit next to her. Obviously I was not a happy camper but I was wearing plaid. Who new that almost 70 years later it would become my favorite pattern (Caregivers Wear Plaid).

We went to ballroom dancing classes together and other social events, but a time came when my family moved away and I did not see Patty until high school when our romance blossomed again. In hindsight, I now know that Patty had lupus when she was eighteen, but she was not diagnosed until she was 26. Our romance did not last through our junior year and neither of us can remember why we broke up.

Fast forward 40 years. Each of us had grown children and we found ourselves back together again. Now in our mid 70’s, we continue to find time to give back. Caregivers Wear Plaid has been a challenge to write but has given me a new vision/mission to help others in similar situations learn from what we have experienced over the years. As once said, “to grow is to progress and to progress is to change.” Both Patty and I are excited to meet new friends through Caregivers Wear Plaid and hopefully make a difference in others’ lives.


Patty has always had the heart to help others. She was a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) advocating for abused or neglected children ensuring they were raised in a safe and healthy home environment. You may also know these exceptional people as Guardians Ad Litem. She also was very much involved keeping the home front warm during Desert Storm being an advocate for women whose husbands had gone off to war. And of course, her time with the lupus foundation of America’s North Carolina Chapter as board chair (2007-2009) was a continuation of her involvement in helping others. Beyond that, she is a homemaker extraordinaire and the love of my life.

I have had many career opportunities. I have worked in Japan, owned several businesses, and then worked for First Union Corporation (now Wells Fargo) and Bank of America (BAC). My expertise was in developing training programs, most recently designing and implementing the Enterprise Information Security Awareness Program for BAC.

In 1998 I was recognized as Volunteer of the Year at First Union Corporation for my work with a child development center for at-risk children. As a board member for the center, I was also recognized by the Charlotte Jaycees for outstanding contributions. I have been on the board of directors of the LFANC serving as board chair from (2013 – 2015), and remain today on the governance committee.

Today, we own Stealth Awareness, Inc., a company that provides videography services to the legal community.  With COVID-19 many will be challenged with new norms. So we are excited to launch Caregivers-Wear-Plaid that we can run safely from home.